Keynotes in the time of Covid

If you’re looking for a speaker to help you thrive in these troubled times, drop me a line ….

“Online keynotes can be tough, but Carl’s story, anecdotes and personality held our audience of business owners on the other side of the world captive for a full 90-minutes, and they wanted more. A world-class keynote presenter with a message everybody in the world with a pulse needs to hear. Book Carl for your next online event, it’s a guaranteed win.” James Veigli, Founder of Broker Profits Vault (Melbourne, Australia)

“I could listen to Carl speak all day! Very dynamic, funny, insightful and engaging. I thought he and his subject matter was the perfect way to end the conference.” Delegate at the annual conference of the Canadian Society of Safety Engineers (Montreal, Canada)

“Carl put on an amazing show! The whole audience was energised by his insightful and fun presentation. He was fantastic! We got amazing comments! A huge, huge thanks!” Beatrice Imbert-Forgeot, Richmond Group (Paris, France)

“Carl was captivating! He has a blend of polished eloquence and sophistication coupled with vibrant and a rare contagious energy that attendees absolutely fell in love with. Carl captured everyone’s attention from the very first second and had us smiling, laughing and nodding in agreement throughout. His appeal is universal and he was the audience favourite!” Sam Makhoul, Founder of Higher Branch Success Academy (Sydney, Australia)

“Getting city lawyers to slow down is impossible surely? Carl was faced with this task at our latest Life With Law event, and succeeded in every way. Carl captured the whole room’s attention with his thoughts on The Slow Movement. His talk resonated with everyone in slightly different ways, but we all left wanting to find our inner tortoise.” Amy Greenham, Lawyers on Demand (London, UK)

“How can we ever thank you for an informative and inspiring two days at Hewitt? I wish you could see my inbox right now (actually, you don’t want to see it, because it’s the opposite of slow). It’s full of thank you messages from parents thanking me and saying that they are going to buy your books and continue thinking and reading about slow parenting. Thank you, thank you, thank you.” Tara Kinsey, Head of School, The Hewitt School (New York City, USA)

“Carl’s presentation was a hit, delivering a fresh perspective to our latest conference that tackled speed in business. Carl’s insights and passion managed to inspire so many C-level executives that going slower at times pays more and as a result it helps us improve and possibly find ways of doing things smarter and faster. I highly recommend Carl as he is a very good public speaker and able to adapt his ‘Slow Movement’ to so many different contexts.” Morgan Parnis, CEO Business Leaders Malta (Valletta, Malta)

“I was super excited when I was listening to Carl speaking in front of our audience — imagine a hall with 400 people and they are all laughing, nodding their heads, smiling – when you can really see that they are enjoying themselves and listening to the speaker on stage. That is what we had with Carl and I can assure you that he will take your advice into consideration and make the best event possible. Really recommend him as a speaker!” Nika Močnik, CEO Eventnika (Ljubjlana, Slovenia)

In Praise of Shyness

Photo by Hassan OUAJBIR on Unsplash

The other day I stumbled across the Facebook page of someone I knew back in high school. It stopped me in my tracks for two reasons.

The first was that Mike had put on 50 pounds and grown a beard. The second was that a guy once known for his shyness now seemed eager to air his dirty laundry in public.

His latest Facebook post said simply: “Just finished trimming my nose hair.”

This grooming update got me thinking. What ever happened to modesty? What happened to keeping our personal thoughts, rituals and affairs to ourselves? If video killed the radio star, what does the information technology revolution mean for things like privacy, reticence and shyness?

In this wired, always-on world, we’re all under pressure to be bold, open and fast: to respond instantly to messages, to share our secrets on social media, to talk on smartphones within earshot of strangers.

You could argue that this is progress, that we should welcome this brave new world of full disclosure and leaning in.

I disagree.

I’m all for openness, but our tech-driven, let-it-all-hang-out culture has gone too far. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not a Luddite. I love technology. I love the way it shrinks the world, brings people together and supplies a bottomless reservoir of information on tap.

But the information revolution is also causing collateral damage. We are losing the ability to switch off, to think deeply about things, to give ourselves over completely to the moment.

The assumption that every detail of our private lives is worth broadcasting to a global audience is fuelling a new kind of narcissism. Even the mystery that is often the lifeblood of human relationships is under threat.

Just look at dating.

Today, the first thing you do after meeting someone you fancy is hop on your phone and start googling. Before you even reach the first dinner à deux, you already know the other person’s job history, hobbies, romantic track-record, politics, taste in travel, friends.

Maybe you even know how they cope with nasal hair.

Shyness is an antidote to all of the above. It’s about holding back, weighing up the options before taking action. It’s about listening to other people instead of blowing your own trumpet. It’s about preserving human dignity by keeping some things quiet.

It seems to me that what we need now is to strike a balance between the thrilling possibilities of information technology and the basic human need for privacy. We need to bring a little bit of shyness back to the party.

How do we do that? Well, perhaps we could start by turning Facebook into a nose-hair-free zone.

London Aging 2.0 has launched a Book Club – and BOLDER: MAKING THE MOST OF OUR LONGER LIVES is the inaugural choice!

If you’d like to take part, sign up here. I will be doing a Zoom Q&A with readers on June 29th.

See you there!

The Slow Newsletter is FINALLY here!

Today, after years of hemming and hawing, I am launching a SLOW NEWSLETTER.

It’ll be weekly. And streamlined.

Just one piece of inspiring news from the world of Slow. One tip for a better life. One piece of culture (book, film, article, exhibition, podcast, etc) that blew me away. Plus, updates on any cool stuff I’m working on.

First edition out next week.

Spread the word and sign up here!

Reading a Slow Excerpt

So, this is a first: Me reading an excerpt from In Praise of Slow online. The excerpt describes an unforgettable dinner in (where else?) a little trattoria in Italy. Pulled together by my Slovenian publisher, but read in the original English. Buon appetito!

Could Covid be the moment we finally slow down (in a good way)?

Trust me, this isn’t what I had in mind.

As the unofficial “godfather of the Slow Movement,” I’ve spent the last 15 years traveling the world to sing the praises of slowness. Urging people to reconnect with their inner tortoise. Calling for deceleration on a global scale.

Well, careful what you wish for ….

The Covid-19 pandemic has certainly forced the world to slow down – but not in a good way.

Like most of you, I’m finding the lockdown hard. It’s a rollercoaster: good days followed by less good ones, then a little jump, maybe a plateau, another dip, then back up again. Wash. Rinse. Repeat. It’s exhausting and demoralising. 

And I’m one of the lucky ones, with good health, a roof over my head and food on the table. The Covid crisis is causing far greater hardship to those with less.

But even in this bleak moment there can be a silver lining. As someone (possibly Winston Churchill) once said: “Never let a good crisis go to waste.” 

Translation: if we learn the lessons of this pandemic, we can make the world a much better place for everyone. 

Let’s not waste this moment of mandatory slowness. Let’s use it to rethink and redesign our lives. To rediscover the many upsides of slowing down. 

Here are five ways to use the lockdown to do just that:

1. Devote more time to simple, slow pursuits: reading, playing board games, cooking and baking, making art and music, meditation.

2. Reconnect with the people you love. Online or in person (where safe).

3. Rest and sleep more. Do things simply for the joy of doing them. Or sometimes do nothing at all.  Be proud – not ashamed – of doing less, of streamlining your To-Do list to focus on what’s important.

4. Reflect on how to transform your life after the crisis. Grapple with those big questions: Who am I? What really matters to me? How can I be a better friend, parent, partner, boss, neighbour, employee, citizen?

5. Find ways to help those less fortunate than you. If this pandemic proves anything, it’s that the world is a better place when we slow down and help each other. As the old proverb goes: “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”

Bottom line: the slowness forced upon us by the pandemic can be a great gift – if we embrace it.

Slow in the time of Covid-19

A darkness has descended and we are all suffering. My heart goes out to each and every one of you.

In times of crisis, though, I always look for the silver lining, the jiu-jitsu move that will turn the downside into upside.

The COVID-19 pandemic is forcing the world to slow down. We can chafe against this. Or we can use the slowness as a way to reboot our lives.

Don’t know about you, but I prefer Option 2.

Here are five ways to put the global slowdown to good use:

  1. Rediscover the joys of small, simple, unhurried pursuits. Actually, this is already happening. In homes across the globe, people in lockdown are playing board games, baking bread, reading books, making art and music, cooking from scratch, learning to play instruments.
  2. Reconnect face to face with the people who matter most to you. Face to face at home or virtually over the Web.
  3. Relearn the lost art of rest, daydreaming, doing nothing or just sleeping enough.
  4. Reflect on the big questions that so often get brushed aside in the headlong dash of daily life. Such as: Am I living the life I really want to be living? Where do I want to be 10 years from now? What can I change to be a better friend, parent, partner, employee?
  5. Find ways to help those less fortunate than you. If this pandemic can teach us anything it’s that the world is a better place when we all look out for each other. Or, as the old proverb goes: “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”

Nothing like a crisis to focus the mind on what really matters. Especially a crisis that forces us to get back in touch with our inner tortoise.

Good luck to you all!

12 Złotych Zasad dla Ludzi, Którzy się Starzeją (czyli dla Wszystkich)

1. Nie przestawaj się uczyć i eksperymentować. Powiedzenie „starego psa nowych sztuczek nie nauczysz” jest nieprawdziwe nawet w odniesieniu do psów. Nowe zajęcia i zainteresowania chronią nas przed zgnuśnieniem.

2. Buduj i podtrzymuj mocne więzi.

3. Inspiruj się ludźmi, którzy mogą służyć za wzór. Pomyśl o Helen Mirren, Davidzie Attenborough, a nawet o Michale Aniele, który z osiemdziesiątką na karku odbudowywał Bazylikę św. Piotra.

4. Utrzymuj ciało i mózg w dobrej kondycji dzięki ruchowi oraz właściwej diecie.

5. Ucz się od Marie Kondo. Jeśli cokolwiek – praca, przyjaźń itd. – przestaje być źródłem radości, daj sobie z tym spokój. Życie jest zbyt krótkie, by je trwonić.

6. Znajdź sobie cel, który wypełni twoje życie treścią i rozpali w tobie ogień.

7. Mów, ile naprawdę masz lat. Kłamiąc, dajesz metryce władzę nad sobą i utrwalasz mit, że młodszy znaczy lepszy. Jeśli chcemy być szczęśliwi w dojrzałym wieku, na początek musimy przestać się go wstydzić.

8. Bądź elastyczny(-a) i otwarty(-a) na zmiany, rozwój, ewolucję. Jak pisał Laozi: „Kto jest miękki i uległy, ten jest uczniem życia. To, co twarde i sztywne, będzie złamane. To, co miękkie i giętkie, przeważy”.

9. Nie słuchaj tych, którzy twierdzą, że miłość, seks i flirt są zarezerwowane dla młodych. Nie ma powodu, abyś nie cieszył(a) się nimi w każdym wieku, jeśli tylko masz ochotę.

10. Jeśli uwierzysz w to, że na starsze lata nie czeka cię w życiu nic dobrego, wpadniesz w pułapkę samospełniającej się przepowiedni. Myśl pozytywnie, skupiaj się na zaletach dojrzałego wieku, takich jak bycie w zgodzie ze sobą, głębsze relacje z ludźmi, więcej szczęścia, altruizmu, kreatywności, wiedzy, doświadczenia.

11 Pielęgnuj w sobie poczucie humoru. Śmiech krzepi i sprzyja długowieczności. Jak pisał George Bernard Shaw: „Nie jest tak, że człowiek przestaje się śmiać, gdy się starzeje. Starzeje się, gdy przestaje się śmiać”.

12. Pamiętaj o śmierci. Nie myśl o niej obsesyjnie, ale też nie uciekaj przed tą myślą. Świadomość, że nasz czas jest skończony, nadaje życiu kształt i sens – i motywuje nas do chwytania każdej chwili.